A Child Is Born
My world is getting more and more frighteningly interconnected. While many would argue that interconnectedness isn't a bad thing, it does have it's limits. The latest incident that has stirred my feelings on this matter occurred this afternoon during and after a conversation with my friend Jerry.
He went out last night to dinner with some of the Gay men from his social group. As it turns out one of the men had to leave abruptly because he was awaiting the birth of his first child. The child isn’t biologically his, but that of a cousin of his whom he is going to adopt it from. I found this story sweet and touching but as Jerry went into further detail about it I suddenly had a chilling realization.
About two weeks ago I got an IM out of the blue from this guy, David, who I had gone on a few dates with about a year and a half ago. David is a sweet guy and I liked him a lot, but there wasn't enough of a click there to develop into anything more serious. We also had a passel of issues between us having both been recently booted from a relationship. We communicated and went out for a few weeks very platonically, I think we kissed once, and then we just sort of stopped keeping in touch. He fell into the abyss of my memory and was forgotten until recently when he made contact again.
David and I didn't talk long, but in the course of our conversation he told me that he was going to be a father. A relative of his was giving birth to a baby that she didn't want so he was going to adopt it. We agreed to keep in touch and with the craziness at my job I haven't had the chance to contact him.
Which brings me to this afternoon. As Jerry described this social acquaintance that was entering fatherhood I started thinking back and putting coincidental pieces together. It's funny, but really there are no coincidences in life. And as it turns out David and Jerry's social acquaintance are one in the same.
Now how weird is that?! Here the guy contacts me out of the blue after almost 2 years and it turns out that he is socially connected to Jerry, who I've been friends with for about a month. It was just a little too creepy for me. Creepier still is that the men who's open relationship David was involved in 2 years ago (which turned ugly and ultimately emotionally destructive) are the same two men that host this dinner group Jerry belongs to. Too many degrees of closeness!!
I'm still in shock about it, but not wholly unhappy. David is a nice guy and I enjoyed his company. Perhaps now that we have both grown more and dealt with some of the issues in our lives we can come to the table of friendship on a more equal basis.
I am also very excited about his new addition. I gave him a call this afternoon and found out that he is the proud father of a baby girl. One of David's dreams was to have a husband and a baby. The husband front still hasn't worked out, but the baby one has. I have to give him a lot of props, it's not easy being a single Gay dad, but I know he'll do well. He is a sweet and giving individual who has a very warm heart and a lot of love and I know that his little girl will grow up the way all children deserve to, with love and positive guidance.
